How do you become famous in the first place? I’d say the #1 rule is to violate expectations.
Fame is attention, and to get attention you need to stand out. Copying what everyone else does only makes you invisible. To become famous you must do something exceptional, unusual, or extraordinary.
Flaunt your uniqueness. Learn what other people did to become famous, and then discard their solutions and do something different. It’s okay to model someone’s general approach, but don’t copy their personal style or technique unless you want to be labelled “So and so, junior.”
I gained some degree of fame by publicly sharing so many of my interests on my blog, including my experiments in polyphasic sleep and raw foods, my interest in Fetishes and D/s play and threesomes, etc.
I Created Club Erotica as an outlet for my more ‘adult’ projects
Of course there are many people who share these interests, so I’m not particularly unique in that regard. But not many people were willing to share such details in public, especially people in the personal development field. Writers in this field had a tendency to whitewash their lives and present a sanitised public image. I shared the more experimental side of my life, and when I did so, people would thank me for it.
People with similar interests or challenges could relate to what I was going through and learn from my failures and successes. They encouraged me to continue. I also felt good about doing this.
I recognised early on that if I kept up this approach, it would surely turn some people against me, but on balance I’ve gained much more traffic and income than I’ve lost by writing on such topics openly. In some media this would backfire, but with blogging people tend to place more value on honesty and authenticity than on needing the writer to clone their values.
Fame is a mixed bag. While it can open up a lot of doors, it can also do weird things to your social life. If you can feel congruent with this path, it’s not that difficult to become famous. The hard part is reaching the point where you can accept and welcome the whole package. Most people could appreciate the benefits of fame but definitely wouldn’t want to deal with the drawbacks such as the loss of privacy, endless solicitations, and the public criticism they’d have to deal with, and so they reject the package as a whole; this virtually ensures they won’t become famous.
Even the people I know who seem pretty comfortable with fame still generally keep it at arms length as much as possible. For them fame is a byproduct of pursuing other interests, but it’s not a particularly worthy end in itself.