This bedroom habit is crucial for a happy relationship
"I'm sorry for what I said when I was sleep-deprived." Sound familiar? We thought so. New research reveals that a good night's sleep may be the key to a better bond with your guy.
For the study, the authors asked 68 newlywed twosomes to (individually) document their relationship satisfaction, as well as how many hours they slept every day for seven days. After analysing the data, the researchers found that spouses who slept more than their usual amount (which was around 7.5 hours, on average) were more likely to say they were happy with their union on that specific day.
Another interesting nugget: Husbands (but unfortunately, not wives) were more likely to report overall martial satisfaction on days when they scored extra sleep—even if they also recalled having negative interactions with their spouse that day. Translation: Scoring shuteye won't make you forget that he didn't wash the dishes—but it might make him forgive you for a similar violation. The study authors say further research is needed to figure out the reasons for this difference.
Can't remember the last time you logged more than seven hours? These bad sleep habits could be the reason for your under-eye bags (and rocky relationship).
While we can't say we're shocked that getting enough sleep makes you a happier partner (let's face it, literally everyone is annoying when you're zonked), these findings are yet another reminder that sufficient snoozing is essential for overall health and happiness.
6 Things That Are Seriously Screwing With Your Sleep
The habits to avoid so you can actually get some shuteye tonight
You know most of the major offenders—a late-afternoon latte, your neighbour's yappy dog, allergies that won't quit—but there are a few other sneaky obstacles that can make it harder to get a good night's sleep. We rounded up the top factors standing in your way. Try to avoid these at all costs!
Binge-watching Mad Men
This one goes out to all of you Netflix marathoners out there: It may be wise to ease up on your habit. A survey found that 82 percent of Netflixers stay up later than their usual bedtimes to marathon a show—and, as a result, many of them reported getting only two to three hours of sleep a night!
Understandably, 77 percent of them said that they felt sluggish after said all-nighters. Point is, we get that it's tempting—and, yes, super enjoyable—to stay up until dawn watching vampire/zombie whatever. But you know what else is enjoyable? A good night's sleep—and you're not going to get that if your night is dedicated to Netflix. So limit the marathons to weekends only from now on.
Those Sunday Night Blues
You know that feeling you get in the pit of your stomach on Sunday night where you start to think about how much you have to do in the week ahead, how you're still kind of tired from the weekend, and how is it almost Monday already?! Brace yourself: A survey from the market research company found that the feeling can actually mess with your sleep pattern. A whopping 70 percent of people surveyed said they toss and turn up to 30 minutes longer on Sundays. Plus, a quarter of people who said they typically don't have sleep issues said even they worry they'll have trouble on Sunday nights. It comes down to two things:
1) You stayed up later over the weekend, so your rhythm is out of whack, and
2) You’re so anxious about the week ahead that your mind actually keeps you awake.
To get that much-needed sleep you need, try this de-stressing meditation before bed.
Sending Off Work Emails on Your Phone After 9 P.M.
You think you're being majorly productive by getting a jump start on tomorrow's to-do list, but actually, that plan may backfire. A study found that when people used their smartphones for work after 9 P.M., they reported less sleep overall than when they avoided their cell. Here’s why: Checking email can stress you out, which keeps you up. Plus, the light on your phone also may hinder the production of melatonin, a hormone that helps you sleep better. The solution? Give your smartphone a strict bedtime, and stick to it. Plug it in away from your bed if you have to. Trust us, the "what's happening on Instagram" anxiety is far less extreme than the anxiety you'll feel by checking your email late at night.
Eating the Wrong Foods
Some foods and drinks may hinder your sleep more than others. Things like caffeine, alcohol, aged and fermented foods, tomato-based products, and even too much water can all keep you up at night. Of course, hunger pains can also keep you from sleeping soundly, so try these healthy snacks that help you sleep better instead.
Not Dealing with Your Stress Properly
Stress is one of the worst feelings in the world, and the specific way in which you deal with your stress can impact your sleep patterns. Those who handed it by distracting themselves, thinking about it constantly, or ignoring it completely had higher rates of insomnia than those who handled it with positive reframing, humour, religion, and venting.
Putting Off Bedtime for Basically No Reason
We've all been there: You tell yourself you're going to go to bed at 11 P.M., but rather than tucking yourself in, you go check Instagram. Someone has a cool sunset picture, so you click on it and then start looking at other sunset pictures—all of the sudden it's 12:30 and you're still on your couch and haven't even taken your contacts out yet. Researchers recently coined this behaviour "sleep procrastination" in an article in the journal Frontiers in Psychology. It's a term for "failing to go to bed at the intended time, while no external circumstances prevent a person from doing so." (Otherwise known as what you typically do at least three nights out of the week.) To avoid getting distracted by random things at night, think of sleep as a reward after a hard day, not something you need to "get to." And consider putting a "do not disturb" function on your phone so you don’t check Insta/FB/Twitter and get lost in a feed-scrolling frenzy.
There you have it - Avoid these 6 hurdles to a better nights sleep, and get more out of your relationship to boot.
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